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Anita Harkess's avatar

This must be a cultural thing, which is more expected and less surprising from a Dutch European: What struck me about your story is how incredibly rude your fellow party goer seemed to me. Why would one say such a thing to a person who has just done something that is so deeply meaningful and takes so much work and dedication as converting to Catholicism? I'm not Catholic, myself -- I no longer even consider myself a Christian. After decades of consideration, I'm an agnostic who leans towards Buddhism. Still, I respect how meaningful many religions are to those who follow them, and Catholicism (which I have always admired even though, as I said, I don't feel connected to any Christian faith, myself) is a complex and deeply devoted faith. How could a person be so belittling of religion when they've just been told the person standing in front of them has accomplished so much in dedication to their own faith?

Then again, this makes me think of an American I once dated (Ron, who you met at least once, Rachel), an atheist who had lived in the European Netherlands for six years before I met him. At the time, I thought of him as an example of the kind of very smart but unearnedly arrogant young person who likes to hang out in coffee shops, writing bad poetry and contemplating the emptiness of existence, and who also feels very superior to anyone who isn't an atheist like themselves -- a very American way to be young, in my experience. But maybe it was even more Dutch European culture I was seeing in him?

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Truman Angell's avatar

A fine bit of journalism. Well done.

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